FAQ

Most people can use mediation. Couples in high conflict or on-going disputes can do well in mediation and in fact will have the most to benefit by coming to a resolution. Even if you have already entered the legal system you can often still choose to use mediation instead of, or along with the legal process.

The length of time to come to an agreement will of course depend on how simplified or complicated your personal situation is. In most situations clients prefer to have about two weeks in between meetings, and meet 2-3 times. Most meetings are 2 hours in length. Most couples can reach an agreement within 2-4 months. Usually the timing depends on your own schedules, willingness to meet, and preparedness to discuss the necessary issues.

You are not required to use a lawyer, but I always strongly recommend that you receive independent legal advice before finalizing your agreement. You will receive lots of legal information throughout the mediation process, but a lawyer will advise you on what is specifically in your best legal interest. Some people choose to also involve a lawyer throughout the process and bring that information to mediation. Others choose to have a lawyer to review their agreement (this is called ILA, independent legal advice) when it’s complete. There are some that feel comfortable without legal advice.

In marriage counselling the counselor will typically listen to both sides of the story and then tell you what they think and what you should do. Counselling often involves looking at psychological issues of family of origin or mental health.

A mediator will meet with each of you individually first in a desire to fully understand your different perspectives. In joint sessions the mediator works to make sure you are each communicating your issues and listening to your partner. The mediator helps you to find the common ground between you and facilitate a plan to move forward. In marital mediation you and your partner will agree to this plan together and identify action steps you’re each willing to take to achieve it.

I work with many files that are best described as “high conflict,” where clients are unable to communicate in any constructive way outside of mediation. This conflict may also include issues such as substance abuse, mood disorders, abuse, or child protection matters. I am trained in conflict resolution and have extensive experience working with these types of files. Many Ontario lawyers refer such complicated matters to me because they know that mediation offers the best chance for a resolution. “Shuttle” or “caucus” mediation is also available where I will go between the parties rather than them meeting with me at the same time.

The average total cost for services needed to reach an agreement is between $2,400-3,100 per person. Cost is dependent upon the issues discussed and services needed. You can contact me to arrange a no-charge consultation call where you can explain your situation and I can give an accurate idea of the cost.