When we’re co-parenting we’ve got to think about the big picture. When we get bogged down in the day to day annoyances and frustrations we lose sight of the big picture. The big picture of raising happy, well-adjusted kids. The big picture of growing and striving for our own peace and happiness.
We’re playing the long game.
If we blast our ex for a rude text, nit-pick about precise drop-off times, or send that hastily written email then we’re likely messing up that big picture. We’re sabotaging our long game. When we let small things go, be generous, and choose to be kind then we’re making some strategic moves to win at the long game. We’re creating a more well-balanced, amicable relationship with our co-parent. We’re setting the stage for increased communication about all of those issues that are going to come up as the kids grow. When we have that long game in mind we make better choices and it’s only then that we can really win.